The problem with shallow vows is that they can damage relationships and erode trust. When we fail to follow through on our promises, others start to doubt our intentions. So, how can we avoid making shallow vows in the first place? For starters, let's be honest with ourselves. If you don't intend to attend your friend's book club meeting, don't promise to go. Instead, say something like, "I'm not sure if I can make it, but I'd love to catch up soon." It's better to be upfront.